Devoted to the Memory of a True Friend

On a beautiful September 1985 Fall day, I arrived at the Fairgrounds to fulfill my daily double dose of horse chores and noticed a one year old stray cat that someone had tossed aside as having no more value than a McDonalds wrapper. A couple of things about him caught my attention. First he had lion paws which were much larger and shaped differently than most cat paws and second, he was amazingly athletic and very personable for a stray cat. He followed me to the tack room and after I decided to give him a hand out of cat food, I started to do my chores. But as soon as he finished his treat, he laid down outside the stall I was cleaning and he only moved to follow me to the next stall and so on and so forth. As I was leaving, he even followed me to the truck and I glanced in the mirror to see him go to the tack room door and lay down again.

I arrived the next day and, to my surprise, he had recognized the truck and walked out to greet me. We did the same routine of him following me and waiting for me up to my leaving only to repeat the same thing for the evening chores and the chores for the next day. I had been adopted by him. So, on the third day, when he followed me to the truck after my evening chores, I figured such devotion couldn’t be all bad, picked him up in my arms and adopted him. After all, turn about was fair play, and whoever had discarded him might, just might, have made a big mistake. Even though his cat curiosity and personality was not angelic by any stretch, certainly his devotion to me was unmistakably that of an Angel, so Angel he was, for the rest of his life.

For the next 17 years, and seemingly knowing a good deal, he never left the house, except for a few one minute escapes, just to prove he could. Without fail, every day of his life with me, he would follow me room to room or to the door out and then meet me at the door when he heard the garage door announce my arrival. He slept at the head of our bed during the summer and at the foot of our bed during the cooler months, never leaving me. Masquerading as a dog, he continually and successfully mooched table scraps from me, much to my wife’s dismay. He even tolerated the occasional bath without holding a grudge, although his athleticism and lion’s paws certainly produced some very unfashionable and necessary apparel to get him washed. To all ends, he was my devoted friend.

But every day we spent together was also one less day that we would have together. Half way though our 17th year and his 18th year, Angel’s health began to fail. His muscular body was getting slender, his wonderful paws more normal and his athleticism also began to fail. I even had to start feeding him different food, because his bite, just wasn’t a bite anymore. But what did not fail, was his Angelic devotion. For even though it took him longer to follow, he was always in the same room, even though he could not jump onto the bed, he slept beside me on the floor all night, even though he was unable to jump to my lap, he laid his head on my feet while I watched TV or worked and every time the garage door announced me, he was there.

But on Sunday July 15, 2002, his legs gave out on him and he laid himself at my feet. So, just as I had picked him up 17 years ago, I picked him up and held him on my lap. A short hour passed and he laid his head back into my arms, looked at me and managed a meow that sounded much like “Good-bye”, sighed a long, deep sigh and left me. Angel, my devoted friend for 17 years, is now with the Angels and is probably listening for the Pearly Gates to announce my arrival so he can be by my side again. I do and will miss him.

But I write this blog for another reason, namely that of celebrating the devotion Angel or any other stray animal can give, if only given the chance, only a chance. There are many people at the Humane Society, that care and know this devotion is there, if only animals are given the chance. So with the mailing of this letter, I am also mailing, or will personally give, a donation to the Humane Society, in Angel’s name, to help these individuals give lost animals that chance of devotion. So if anyone who reads this letter, has suffered, or will suffer the loss of a devoted animal friend, simply will do the same and donate a “chance” to the Humane Society in that animal’s honor, then the only thing discarded on the streets will be McDonalds wrappers and not Angelic devotion.

To that end, I am, and shall always remain

Angel’s devoted friend,

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Well that seals the deal for me.  I don't care what your politics are, Rex, if I see your name on a ballot again you've got my vote.  You are a good man.

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Barrelmaker,

Thanks, our lives are always made richer by such devotion. I cry openly everytime I think of him.

I only hope everyone will do what I suggest and help other lost souls.

To that end, I am, and shall always remain;
Rex Bradfield

Donating to the Humane Society has been made much easier now that you can do it through Community Shares payroll deduction.

Wow Rex, what a tender story.

I hope everyone in the State House loves stray kitties. Who doesn't love stray kitties?

With all that is going on in Springfield right now, if you plan to run again, I would hope you would keep up on the events there and comment on them.

But kitties are nice, a good plank in your platform, "Rex loves kitties". That'll impress 'em.

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"Wow Rex, what a tender story.

I hope everyone in the State House loves stray kitties. Who doesn't love stray kitties?

With all that is going on in Springfield right now, if you plan to run again, I would hope you would keep up on the events there and comment on them.

But kitties are nice, a good plank in your platform, "Rex loves kitties". That'll impress 'em."

I absolutely don't know what to say when someone goes on like that (but I'll say something anyway, since I'd hate to disappoint any other anonymous posters looking for a target for cheap shots).  Rex's post was not in any way intended to be political.  Why can't you just deal with the subject on its own merits, instead of having to dump on him like that?

Anyone who has ever lost a long time animal companion can relate instantly to Rex's post.  Is it no longer possible to have genuinely human moments here?  If you absolutely have to unload on somebody, for heaven's sake go into another thread and take a crack at Emil or Rod or W or Rove or Paris or anyone else who really deserves it...

Rex,
I'm sorry to hear about the death of your kitty.  I will confess that your tribute made me get a little bit weepy when I first looked at it. I have had animals all my life.  Cats or dogs, I have loved all my animals and I miss them still at times. Again, i say, I'm sorry.
 
I honestly do not and cannot get my head around the people who think that an animal is "disposable."  I look at those companion animals and I see a divine gift that is to be cherished. They give us love in a very open and unguarded way. Those animals are given a shorter life span that we are and I think that in return for that unconditional love they give us the least we can do is treat them as we would like to be treated in the short time they are with us.
 
We currently live with a massive black cat that is 15 pounds of neutered male splendor.  (He's "just big boned" according to Kevin!)   We adopted Chaucer from the Humane Society about five years ago.  Literally, that kitten chose Darcy by leaning out of his cage and patting at her with his paw.
 
To this day, that cat sleeps on her bed when she is not at home and he runs to the door when he hears her on the front porch.  They chase each other up and down the hallway (never DID figure out how THAT game began) and he waits behind doors for her to walk by so he can jump out and make her squeal.  Simply put, it is a reciprocal love.
 
I am sorry you have met with anything other than acceptance and kindness here in this discussion.  You were so very eloquent with your tribute and I respect you a great deal for taking time to honor that relationship.

In sympathy,
 
 
Laura
 

As the shelter manager for the Champaign County Humane Society, I want to thank you for writing such a poignant story about the connection between animals and humans.  Hearing your story helps us reaffirm why we do what we do, as difficult and heartbreaking as it can be.

Thousands of unwanted animals are brought to our shelter every year, and we struggle to do the best we can for each and every one, but we are of course limited by resources, space, and loving homes.  Each time a match is made, we get to rejoice in the lifelong bond that is made, and each time an animal is brought to us we try to share our love and compassion with these friendly souls.

The Champaign County Humane Society was incorporated in 1951 by a diverse group of local citizens who cared deeply about animals. Our first shelter was built near Bondville, Illinois and in June of 1988 we moved into our current shelter in Urbana. Our name reflects our geographic location only. We are not a government body and we are not supported by tax dollars. We are not affiliated with any national organization. We do not receive funds from the United Way. We are an "open door" shelter and accept all animals needing shelter, regardless of age, physical condition or adoptability. As a local, not-for-profit charity, we exist through the generosity of many individuals and businesses and are supported by a community that cares.

Champaign County Humane Society
1911 E. Main St. Urbana, IL, 61802
(217)344-7297
www.cuhumane.org
shelter.manager@cuhumane.org

 

 

Kate Meghji,

CCHS Shelter Manager

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Thanks to all (with one possible exception) for understanding the post.

We only are allowed to walk through life once, and never backwards. Friends such as Angel, make our lives richer and soften the sometimes hard road of life. The day I forget him will be the day, I am no longer traveling that road.

Please consider the contributions, so that some may enjoy the same as I have.

To that end, I am, and shall always remain;
Rex Bradfield

Truly touching story, Rex.  I am sorry for your loss.

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I talked with Kate Meghji, and found that the Humane Society has taken my suggestions, from my original letter to the Editor years ago, and incorporated a "In Memoriam" section to their web site.

If you click on that part, you can do exactly what I suggested by using Pay Pal on line. Wonderful Stuff.

I could NEVER work at the Society, my heart could not stand the loss of even one animal. I admire each worker at the facility for their efforts.

Again, thanks to everyone for taking a little time to read this post and your heartfelt thoughts. It is easy to write from the heart and I hope that my words stirred memories of pets from everone's past. They are great memories.

To that end, I am, and shall always remain;
Rex Bradfield

I'm scheduled for volunteer training at the Humane Society this weekend.  Then I can be a fully qualified dog walker!  (It's tempting to get a dog of my own, but that's a huge commitment.)

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Congrats to you wayward for two things,

First for your commitment to help as a volunteer, Bravo to you.

And Second and most important, recognizing that the commitment to adopt a pet, is a commitment for 14-20 years and is to be carefully considered.

I applaud your commitment to service and your recognition. A+

To that end, I am, and shall always remain;
Rex Bradfield

Thanks.  Actually, I was thinking that it would be cool to have a dog that could help with search and rescue, but the breed often used for tracking and trailing (bloodhound) is more labor-intensive than most other breeds.  They're supposed to be very sweet dogs, though.

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Wayward, they are, and they are absolutely devoted friends.

If you make that choice to adopt, then 15-20 years from now, you will be writing a similiar tribute as I did and completely without regret for your years of helping your friend through life.

Fear not.

To that end, I am, and shall always remain;
Rex Bradfield

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Because I post with my name, I have received numerous phone calls from those who have read this blog, but would rather respond in a more personal matter. Many have said they are going to print the post and frame it for their use.

Thanks to everyone for your calls and your posts here.

It makes my heart feel so good to know it has touched you all, in the same manner as Angel touched me.

To that end, I am, and shall always remain;
Rex Bradfield

Thanks, I just did my volunteer orientation at the Humane Center this morning.  They're really conscientious - we got reminded more than once to sanitize our hands and do other things to protect the health of the animals.  Haha, a little cat that I think of as "Houdini" escaped from one of the cat rooms and took an interest in the rabbit cages.  She was sniffing the biggest rabbit I've ever seen - it looked like it might have weighed in a 10-15 pounds, and was bigger than she was.  I said, "Honey, you probably need to think about smaller prey."

The dogs all seemed pretty nice.  There was an adorable five-month-old puppy who had to be carried out of her cage, but seemed to have a good time once we got outdoors.  The cats were generally quite friendly too - some of the ones in cages would meow and stick their paws out when humans came in the room.  They also had various small animals, and I spent some time with a wonderful rabbit named Butler.

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wayward,

You will never regret what you are doing.

Wonderful.

To that end, I am, and shall always remain;
Rex Bradfield